That part for me sent me! I had to take a deep breath on that one. “our marriage was built on fear, and then thrived on it for 20 years”, that part is deep! And I hope no one missed that. It is my hope that your next relationship you embark on (the one with yourself) is built on truth. And you then attract nothing but the truth in this experience called life. Your marriage may have ended, but “YOU” are just beginning!